How will you find love?
Why all we need are the 26 letters of the alphabet for abandon and friendship – but not just.
I cleverly cocooned myself from others for decades, for renewal from love narratives that were soul-shrinking, I believed I couldn't live without and from love narratives that were soul-stretching, I believed I couldn't live with. The moments of affection that were uninvited and unreceived, the moments of affection that were invited and received, in time generously returned to memory, to illuminate on how sinister few were and on how satisfying many were.
I return to love letters received some time ago and some received more recent by email, that I can't seem to let go of and read through for reminders on how extraordinarily satisfying love connections are, from cherished friends and lovers that have shared their comings and goings, strife and romances, adding passages about how my presence significantly affected their lives.
These kindly written letters revive my philosophical pursuit for love and my physical pursuit for love. Written by hand and electronically, because of the distance between us by land or emotions, it transfers feelings otherwise terrifyingly difficult to express and easily to distract from if breath were the only distance between us.
What these letters effectively do is remind and help recognise that I'm too delicate and too violent towards love. A belief hard to swallow but true, seeing that we're all too delicate and too violent towards love.
With the world whirling in not enough love and too much hate, we're all too susceptible to our emotions going numb and forgetting our purpose to one another, and a love letter could give relief in a small and succinct way – to ease our grieving and loneliness.
Love letters are memories that are vulnerable, passionate and tender, accessed when we're alone to process and to record our respect to someone we care for with empathy, joy and grief.
To remember moments with one another when our bodies exhaled in relief to being alive and to remember moments with one another when our bodies inhaled in need of more relief from being alive. To help reduce one another's suffering and self-shaming, to help regain one another's dignity and self-respect.
Love letters are the encouragement to love and love again and to love and love more, for ever and every day.
Photo kindly donated by Thomas Branconier.